Tying the knot with the love of your life may feel like the happy ending to your fairytale romance but, as much as we hate to break it to you, it’s just a start of a lifelong commitment that requires a lot of sacrifices and constant search for ways to spice up your marital life.
Now that you have been Mr. & Mrs. for quite some time, you may have noticed that things have slightly changed in your relationship. Taking each other for granted seems to be the norm, but you don’t have to suffer because of these minor setbacks– here are ways to keep you both happy even after tying the knot.
Connect and Interact
The truth is that there will be a lot of changes: from when you and your partner used to date to now that you have gotten married. Back then, you finish each other’s sentences; your heart skipped a beat whenever they smiled, or just a simple text from them could make your day.
Now, your daily musings involve small talks or hellos and goodbyes, no thanks to your work that take the energy and fun out of your love life. Sometimes, these small moments are all that you have, so skip the common, substance-less, robotic talks that become a habit.
It feels less personal if you have this kind of conversation, so let each other know that they are important and you can’t wait for them to return. Physical interactions such as hugs and kisses are also better.
Make Them Feel Special
Because life happened, there is more to your relationship than just the two of you, which is why it is essentially hard to bring back what used to be. However, you don’t even need to shell out tons of money to make your partner feel special again – although that could work, too, if you have the budget.
The small gestures like leaving a handwritten note in their packed lunch or baking cupcakes could already make them feel that you thought of them. The bottom line is, it will make them feel wanted.
Invest in Their Emotional Piggy Banks
Family therapist Jenni Skyler advised doing small acts that can fill your partner’s emotional piggy bank. No, we’re not talking about making financial donations to his/her bank accounts (although that would be again up to you), rather performing good deeds that will speak volumes to them.
It’s the thought that counts, they say, and it really is true. Sometimes, it’s the small things that make huge impacts on another person.
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